I want to give you all fair warning that this post is a bit of a rant, and it is about a controversial topic. I apologize for anyone who takes offense, but I do not apologize for my feelings or opinions. That said, please remember to be respectful in your comments. If you can’t be, just know that you will be deleted. Thank you for reading.
WHERE do these kids get guns? HOW do they manage to get guns and take them to school without their parents taking notice? WHERE are the parents? WHAT in the hell are they so busy with that they don’t know that their children are troubled enough to take a gun to school and start shooting other kids?
WHY does this keep happening?
Yesterday, a 17 year-old kid walked into his high school in Chardon, Ohio, with a gun and opened fire. As of right now, 3 kids have died as a result, and 2 others are wounded.
This crazy shit just keeps happening, it seems. Similar incidents have been happening since the 1800s, but not as often as in recent years. The first such incident I can find is when an 8year-old in New York stabbed a classmate way back in 1898. All the way back in 1937, a young man took a gun to school and shot his principal in Toledo, Ohio. Of course, the most memorable of recent years was the attack on Columbine High School in Colorado in 1999. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold entered the school armed heavily and opened fire; killing a total of 12 students and 1 teacher and injuring 24 others, and then killing themselves.
So much tragedy. And I have to ask again; where are the parents? I try not to judge, but it’s hard not to place blame somewhere. These kids weren’t born bad. At some point, something happened to them that they could not bounce back from, and it ate them up inside and caused them to think that the only way to handle their hurt and anger was to kill people. They decided to get rid of the people who had hurt them, and somehow murder and suicide was their best option.
Meanwhile, their parents always seem so shocked and clueless about how on Earth their child could be capable of such unspeakable things. How do you not know your children at all? How are you so unaware of what’s going on in your child’s life? Do you speak to them? Acknowledge their presence? Converse with them at all? And why in the hell do you have guns that your kids have access to?
Don’t even get me started on guns in the first place. I am so anti-guns that my kids aren’t even allowed to play with toy guns. Anything they use as a water squirter in the summertime is in the shape of an animal or something that doesn’t resemble a firearm in any way. I have told my son from day one that guns are not to be played with. They are dangerous and will kill people. YES guns DO kill people. If you care to argue, please do it elsewhere. I have zero respect for anyone who is pro-guns. You have no need for a gun if you live in the United States (unless you are an officer of the law or a soldier).
Your food is killed for you elsewhere and you have no need to hunt it down. You have locks on your doors. Use them. If someone does you wrong, you don’t need to shoot and kill them to get revenge. You tell the police. They’re the ones who need guns.
And we need to stop glorifying violence. So many kids think it’s cool to carry a gun. It’s like some kind of perverted, twisted status symbol in some areas of our country. They somehow got it into their heads that that is typical behavior. Where did they get that idea from? TV? Probably. Video games? More than likely. Movies? Surely. But…who let them watch those shows and play those games and see those movies? And perhaps what’s worse is that they see that behavior displayed by the very people who are supposed to be teaching them that it’s wrong.
There is but one answer to that question, folks. It’s an easy one. Their parents.
I am sorry if it offends some of you, but I can’t help but blame the parents over and over again. We are responsible for raising our children to be good, kind, productive members of society. We are responsible for teaching our kids the difference between right and wrong. It is wrong to kill people. It is wrong to carry guns and other weapons. It is wrong to neglect your children so much that they grow to become troubled monsters who feel like the only way out is to self-destruct.
Parents: You are creating these kids. YOU are making your child think that violence is okay by letting him watch TV unattended. YOU are showing your babies that killing people can be a fun game that you can play safely in your home, as long as no one really gets hurt. That is a LIE.
I am so damned tired of the lies and the lazy parenting. We cannot let TV and video games raise our children. We cannot keep raising kids who think violence is funny. It has to stop now; because I tell you what, if my kid grows up and turns out to be a psychopath, I will have no one to blame but myself.
Of course, I’m not going to let that happen. I talk to my son and my step-sons. I listen to them. I hug them and tell them that they are loved. I have ZERO tolerance for violence in my home and that is how it should be.
What a damn shame and waste of life. The deaths of the 3 kids who died yesterday and today are the result of someone else’s mistakes. In the coming days, I’m sure we’ll find out that TJ Lane was a “troubled” kid who “kept to himself”. I’m sure his parents are “shocked” and that they had no idea their son was a psychopath.
What the fuck ever.
Take responsibility. Own it. You screwed up. Somewhere, at some point in raising TJ, you stopped paying attention. Well, now’s your chance to be involved. Now that your kid stole children from three other families. The tragedy is that it’s too late.
Please, don’t be those parents. Be present with your children. Love them. Talk to them and most importantly, LISTEN to them. If you are paying attention, you’ll notice when something isn’t right, and you’ll be there to help them before they self-destruct.
Rest in peace dear Danny, Russel and Demetrius. Love and light to you on your journeys and to your families during this tragic time.
Update 3/5/12: I must add an update and a clarification of sorts, as I wrote this post in the heat of the moment and it is full of emotion and I have had to explain to people my true stance on the issue. If you are going to own a gun, you must be responsible about it. You must own it legally and safely, and if you have children in your home, I believe it is also imperative that you teach your kids about guns. They should know where they are and what they look like and do, so if they do happen to stumble upon them someday, they don’t look at them as something “cool” and explore them without proper knowledge. As we know, that often ends in tragedy. Keep your guns safely locked up and if my kid is ever going to be a guest at your house, you better expect that I’ll ask you if you have guns and if they are in a secure place. Thank you all for reading and commenting and being respectful and honest. That is why I share. I love to hear people’s opinions and I love to see them expressed openly and without judgment. I haven’t deleted any comments made by anyone, and I don’t expect to. Thank you again.